Unfortunately Gaye found this site Googling herself, and left a number of volatile, nasty messages here and on my photos on Flickr. I reported them, collapsed them and notifed admin. In order to try and quell the fire of her wrath, would everyone be kind enough to contact me privately rather than post anything publicly. I really have no idea how much further she's planning on crossing my boundaries. It seems the most prudent thing to do is become silent and invisible while I continue on.

Wish me luck. Best good wishes to everyone.

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I'm an artist and a teacher, a friend and a philosopher, but I have to put myself as a mother before all else. Its not a choice I'm always happy to make. There are many times I'd like to continue to choose to be self-involved or wreckless or undisciplined but many of those would be at the detriment of my son. When I had him, I learned what its like to sacrifice, to commit, to be self-less, to put someone else's best interests above my own.

This sadly is one of those choices.

I dont deal well with bullies at all. I havent in my entire life. Its been my experience that the only way to stop bullying is to go toe to toe with them. Its extremely odd to me that I find myself in this position of having to face one again at age 44. I thought we adults left that behind in the schoolyard.

GD is a 50 yr old woman in Ireland according to her online admissions who has decided to not just bully me, but to go for the jugular when I stood up to her on an abuse-survivor forum. Her response was to mine my photosites, download a couple photos of me and of my 11 yr old son. She has forged ahead with an online campaign as well as trying to convince law officials and newspaper reporters that I am, among other slanderous things, a drunk, an addict, mentally ill and a convicted serial killer (all documeted by the way). What she has done or plans to do with the photos of my son is what I am most concerned about.

On the advice of both a therapist who specializes in anger management and abuse, and a police officer, I'm making unavailable any photos of me or my son that can be used for nefarious reasons, if nothing other than to identify him or me.

Its not what I want to do. What I want to do is call in a favour with a Private Investigator and find out exactly where she lives so I can pay her a visit. Its within my budget financially and timewise, but its not a very emotionally prudent course of action.

There is a course of action short of that though. I've documented everything she's said to me and about me publicly and privately (that others have been kind enough to send me) and as soon as something horrible comes knocking on my door I'm prepared and poised for legal action.

Until then I'm tied down and frustrated that me, the artist, has to impose censorship on myself

all because

of some woman who for the last decade has been doing this excact same thing to MANY other people (she's been banned from numerous web forums including Wikipedia for this very same kind of thing - Google Zeraeph and see what you get, she compalins she's had a problem with stalkers for almost a decade- I wonder if she ever asks herself why she has so many people might be upset with her?)



If youve got any practical solution or advice, I'm all ears.

send me a note

thanks